Mike's Musings

I'll be posting my musings from time to time on various subjects some just because I feel like it, others because I'm mad, still others because I want to make the world a better place. Now that the "d" is done, it's time to move on to other things. I'm reminding myself that life is just too short to focus on just one thing.

Sunday, April 23, 2006

I feel like such an idiot!

Well, I decided to go out dancing last night for no real reason other than to get out of my house and get away from doing the term paper that I have to do. That was a good thing for me as I found a dance partner that I'd like to get to know better...that is, if I knew her name and phone number! Even though we've seen each other and danced together a couple of times in the past, we have never formally introduced ourselves (which is why I don't know her name). Anyway, last night, we literally danced most of the night away (if you can call almost 3 hours straight that). Before she left, she wrote her number in my PDA, but goofy me didn't do something right and now it's gone (of course being up @ 2:30am is crazy for me to begin with). So, not only do I not know her name, now I'm probably going to be labeled a jerk because I can't call her. What can I do since she doesn't go to the dance hall often? Got any ideas? Maybe I'm just sunk!

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Note: Remember, these are only opinions and if you really want to convince me otherwise, post your own response. "Go ahead, make my day!" Also, due to the amount of "ad postings" that I have deleted lately, I've had to add a verification word before you can post, sorry.
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A wise man once told me "Listen to the opinions of the extremes and you'll discover that the truth is somewhere in the middle."

posted by Mike @ 11:47 AM  

4 Comments:

  • At 8:57 PM, April 30, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Mike, as your ex father-in-law, I really feel like I need to say ome things now that the "D" is over. I have maade my share of mistakes, and, I dont approve of how things went down with mydaughter and you. But, I sure can understand it.
    You mention your PDA..... is it the same one that you got a message on DURING your wedding ceremony to my daughter? The same one she asked you not to bring to the wedding? The same one you chose instead of having a conersation with your wife? The same one that sent the two of you into marriage counseling? The same one when after driving 100 miles to visit family only to lose yourself in your PDA playing games?
    Mike, you are an intelligent individal. Two people were at fault in your marriage. I can't take either side. But, I truely think that your devotion to your PDA,technology, and your own desires took 1st place over your wedding vows.
    I have read "OH WOE IS ME... WHAT AM I TO DO??" on your blog since this started. Grow up Mike and give more than 50% in your next relationship if you need to. I didn't see half of thatin he one you just got out of.....
    Let's see if you are man enough to leave this on your blog, Mike. Can you take truth?
    This girl is probably lucky yo lost her number.

     

  • At 4:38 PM, May 02, 2006, Blogger Mike said…

    I'm going to comment as there are some things that aren't right--

    1. She never asked me not to bring it to the wedding. The pastor asked me to bring it out, if you recall. And if you want to know what was in that message, it was his blessing to both of us, which after reading it, she felt it helped make our ceremony unique.
    2. If she would have agreed to marital counseling, I would gladly have gone, but she didn't want to spend the time or the money, and she felt it wouldn't change how she really felt about us, and that's her perogative.
    3. I fully believe that I tried my best to make her happy first, BEFORE trying to fulfill my own desires. (Which, btw, when it came to technology and board/card games, we did have a common interest in it, if you doubt it, just look at her computer, the one she wouldn't let me touch.) However, towards the end, I could tell that my effort wasn't being reciprocated, and I fully accept my part in giving up on it all.

    I have no problem facing truth and I know I have my part in this to blame, too. I really did want this to last, and I'm never going to regret my time with her as we did have many great memories together.

    I have no problem leaving your comment on my space as you have a right to see the side of the coin you did see.

    The only I find to be mean, however, is I have never wished ill-will in any sort towards her or anyone on your side of the family, but that you would towards me in your last statement, just hurts because I still consider y'all friends, but I know that she doesn't want me to initiate contact with any of you (and I'll stand by her wishes) unless necessary, and that's fine.

    She got what she wanted, so now it's time for me to re-discover what I want out of this life and the life to come. So if I make a mistake and blog about it, it's to help me learn what I need to do to grow. Believe me, I don't mind suggestions, and if I'm wrong, you know I'll admit it. Life is just too short.

    Lastly, the "woe is me" you speak of has now become a way for me to laugh at my life and what it's become since she left. I find that laughing at what goes on in my everyday life (some ordinary, some not-so-ordinary), is probably the best thing I could have discovered. Sure, some parts of my life have become sarcastic, but you know something, living it is better than watching it off on the sidelines!

    PS--I fully believe that God sent my PDA crashing for a reason. He meant to tell me that I'm not ready for any serious relationship with a woman right now. That's life. I'll take it as it comes & as He leads. He'll let me know when it's time.

     

  • At 4:40 PM, May 02, 2006, Blogger Mike said…

    In case I totally misread that last statement of yours, I apologize.

     

  • At 10:07 PM, May 15, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Hello Michael,
    I'd like to add my own clerification.

    1. I may not have asked you not to bring your PDA to the wedding, but I didn't think I needed to. When the pastor asked you if you had it, and you did, I wanted to SLAP you! I could not believe you had it!

    2. I did ask you not to bring your PDA on the honeymoon, but you did.

    3. I didn't agree to marital counceling because I don't believe it would have helped. Hind-sight, as they say, is 20/20. We should have dated longer, and had a longer engagement. Dating for about 2 or 3 months and a 7 month engagement is not nearly long enough for the newness of the relationship to wear off and reality to set in. I wish I would have stayed truer to myself and not compromised so much. I evedently needed more attention than you could give. Remember the "Love Languages" quiz we took? Those results told me alot about me. I know what I need now, and will be sure I get it next time around.

    4. I don't remember asking you not to contact my family. I figure since you didn't talk to them before, why would you start? The only conversations I ever remember you having with either my Dad or Step-Dad were about computers or kitchen appliances.

    I am glad that you seem to be "getting out there" and finding yourself. I wish you luck in being able to "move on."

     

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